The Male Gaze

[Chutzpar]

Yes, I was explaining that women are subject to a false dichotomy, why are you presenting this as if it is at all contrary to what I was saying?

Also extremely insulting to men. Apparently now every heterosexual man is a CoD-playing fratboy who goes to bars on the weekends to sleep with random chicks, viewed through beer goggles, and the ones that aren't want to be that man. Here goes a preemptive prediction of "I can be insulting to men if I want to because men have been insulting to women for centuries."

Where did I say or even imply that I think this about men? Please show your work.

Uhh what? I was referring to videogame characters in that post, not real people

I am fully aware of this. When we're talking about the male gaze we're not often talking about real people, at least not in real circumstances. Singularly characterising women as sex objects feeds into and normalises sexist ideals. That's why it's a problem.

It'd be much more productive for your movement to be focused on creating "strong female characters" in real life than to complain when the cameraman films an ass shot of Angelina Jolie.

Well golly gee here I am asserting myself as a woman and being slapped down by a dudebro for reading too heavily into things. And then being told I need to do more to assure that women assert themselves. Which is, by the way, victim blaming; you're just looking for a reason to silence the Big Mean Feminazi rather than listening to my point. Where, also, is the assumption coming from that I don't look at bigger issues, too? It's all part of the same problem.

You don't understand sociological privilege. Even having read something that explains what it is.
The fact that you are a man puts you at an elevated position in society. This isn't something subjective. Men run society. As a man, nobody will assume that you got your job due to your gender, or your attractiveness. As a man, you are much less likely to be the victim of sexual harassment. If you choose never to have children, nobody will question if you are a "real man". If you get angry, people will accept it as legitimate anger rather than claiming it's 'just that time of the month' or claiming that you're being 'hysterical'.

The fact that you benefit from male privilege does not suddenly mean you are privileged in all aspects, and it doesn't mean that patriarchy isn't also damaging to you. I never made that statement and you're going off on a massive fucking derail to act like I did.
Where did I say that male privilege was the only privilege?
I didn't.
The fact that you also belong to a different marginalised group is utterly fucking irrelevant. Nobody is 100% privileged or 100% marginalised.