01-30-2016, 03:49 AM
Just to clarify, I shall continue to lurk. However, this issue bothers me, so I'm gonna PSA the thing.
Over-protective parents who will not give their kids many, or any options at all, in the name of "protecting their innocence" , or "keeping them safe"
I have seen enough examples of this ultimately doing more harm than good.
However, one very recent incident, assuming I'm not totally being played here, bothers me...a lot.
This is not my new friend that makes me happy, so nothing to worry about, there, but...
I recently met someone through an online chat room type of game. (oh, and said game has no moderation whatsoever)
Now, IDK how genuine the whole situation is or was....but due to assorted reasons, including bullying, she possibly has killed herself. Although, I also have been told things to suggest someone killed her. in any case...regardless of the validity of this situation, I know it is actually a very plausible one. I tried many times, including the last time I talked to her, to get her to create either an email or some other account. This would be so the two of us had a reliable way of contacting each other, and ASAP. She wasn't allowed to do either. (yet was allowed to, or secretly was visiting this absolutely horrendous and not moderated chat game) The last night saw her, I said to wait for me a week. A week passed, I set-up my room, and she never showed. Earlier this week, her friend told me all that had happened. I had a sinking feeling when I told her to wait that I would never see her again. Even more bothersome is I was told she went looking for me, but we never met-up. We both were online, supposedly, yet we never met that day. Her alleged death was the following day. I reinforced what I had said about a reliable form of communication being required while talking with her best friend. However, I also have regret for telling her to wait. I would've allowed this game to continue sucking time from me had I known what would happen was going to. But, anyways, back on the parents thing.
When parents restrict their children, to the point the safety nets of their friends either fail, or never can exist, those parents aren't helping. They are hurting, and they are smothering. Now, while I cannot say the situation in this case is 100% genuine, it is not unreasonable for me to assert that such a situation is entirely possible. It might be a stretch to say it causes fatalities, but it certainly doesn't help in preventing one. While I could've done more as a friend, I could've done a lot more if I didn't have to wait in some dumb and not moderated chat room as our only way of talking. Also, I have known people irl with parents that can be defined as over-protective. Every single one of them is definitely now very screwed-up, and possibly unready for the real world. But to add to the list of things that bother me about over-protective/restrictive parents, the possibility that the restrictions are so tight that vital safety nets such as friends fail, and as a result of that, a death occurs.
Now I'm off to b-
nope, first i am going to take a shower, then I gotta clean the office, then i will be asleep, at prob 6 or 7 AM >.<
Thought of something else that annoys me, my mom's unbelievable skill at forcing my hand and/or throwing my day off completely.
p.s.
to clarify, I need no advice on trusting or believing people. I actually am well-aware of the concept and practice of manipulating people. That said, if all of what happened is an elaborate ruse, they do not have me as well as they might think. I might not be able to tell when someone's playing me, but I can choose to merely play-along, rather than give-up full control or trust. I am playing this quite safely, so I do not want the subjects of social engineering, manipulation, phishing, etc, mentioned whatsoever. At least, not in the context I am totally unaware of it or how to be safe from it.
Over-protective parents who will not give their kids many, or any options at all, in the name of "protecting their innocence" , or "keeping them safe"
I have seen enough examples of this ultimately doing more harm than good.
However, one very recent incident, assuming I'm not totally being played here, bothers me...a lot.
This is not my new friend that makes me happy, so nothing to worry about, there, but...
I recently met someone through an online chat room type of game. (oh, and said game has no moderation whatsoever)
Now, IDK how genuine the whole situation is or was....but due to assorted reasons, including bullying, she possibly has killed herself. Although, I also have been told things to suggest someone killed her. in any case...regardless of the validity of this situation, I know it is actually a very plausible one. I tried many times, including the last time I talked to her, to get her to create either an email or some other account. This would be so the two of us had a reliable way of contacting each other, and ASAP. She wasn't allowed to do either. (yet was allowed to, or secretly was visiting this absolutely horrendous and not moderated chat game) The last night saw her, I said to wait for me a week. A week passed, I set-up my room, and she never showed. Earlier this week, her friend told me all that had happened. I had a sinking feeling when I told her to wait that I would never see her again. Even more bothersome is I was told she went looking for me, but we never met-up. We both were online, supposedly, yet we never met that day. Her alleged death was the following day. I reinforced what I had said about a reliable form of communication being required while talking with her best friend. However, I also have regret for telling her to wait. I would've allowed this game to continue sucking time from me had I known what would happen was going to. But, anyways, back on the parents thing.
When parents restrict their children, to the point the safety nets of their friends either fail, or never can exist, those parents aren't helping. They are hurting, and they are smothering. Now, while I cannot say the situation in this case is 100% genuine, it is not unreasonable for me to assert that such a situation is entirely possible. It might be a stretch to say it causes fatalities, but it certainly doesn't help in preventing one. While I could've done more as a friend, I could've done a lot more if I didn't have to wait in some dumb and not moderated chat room as our only way of talking. Also, I have known people irl with parents that can be defined as over-protective. Every single one of them is definitely now very screwed-up, and possibly unready for the real world. But to add to the list of things that bother me about over-protective/restrictive parents, the possibility that the restrictions are so tight that vital safety nets such as friends fail, and as a result of that, a death occurs.
Now I'm off to b-
nope, first i am going to take a shower, then I gotta clean the office, then i will be asleep, at prob 6 or 7 AM >.<
Thought of something else that annoys me, my mom's unbelievable skill at forcing my hand and/or throwing my day off completely.
p.s.
to clarify, I need no advice on trusting or believing people. I actually am well-aware of the concept and practice of manipulating people. That said, if all of what happened is an elaborate ruse, they do not have me as well as they might think. I might not be able to tell when someone's playing me, but I can choose to merely play-along, rather than give-up full control or trust. I am playing this quite safely, so I do not want the subjects of social engineering, manipulation, phishing, etc, mentioned whatsoever. At least, not in the context I am totally unaware of it or how to be safe from it.